Newsflash: many women do enjoy porn! The notion that women don't respond to sexual imagery is simply a myth.
The reality is that many women are uncomfortable with the idea of admitting to someone that they are turned on by a full-on vagina ramming session because of how they may be perceived, how they were raised, etc. But finding porn that you'll both enjoy is really not that difficult.
Get the facts. Try talking to her about what types of sex scenes turn her on and listen closely whenever the topic of sex comes up for clues that may help in your hunt for mutually gratifying smut. Knowing your partner and what turns her on and pisses her off is a good start. If you know she's the jealous type, then choosing a movie with nothing but girl on girl action and making reference to how hot they are is just not gonna fly! This doesn't mean that you have to rush out and get "Bobby Does The Marines" just to cater to her enjoyment of men in uniforms or anything, just keep both of you in mind when choosing your porn.
Do some research. Reading reviews of films before you head off to the video store can be a great way to know what you're getting and avoid coming back with a video featuring no more than a record-breaking-gangbang filmed with a camcorder, which I can almost assure you wouldn't be a good choice! Look for reviews by women to give you an extra edge; these are easily found on any sex toy or adult DVD websites.
Starting off with something mild wouldn't hurt either. These days finding porn made by women for women is easy thanks to former porn stars like Candida Royalle and Veronica Hart. Don't let the "for women" label fool you; these movies are still more graphic than typical soft-core porn, the only difference being that instead of a string of facials and blowjobs; these films tend to up the sensuality a notch and include a build-up to the main attraction that others don't.
Be prepared. Finally, you can always have a second film as back up and keep it stashed until you see her reaction to the first, softer film, cuz' who knows; gang bangs and Bukkake may be her thing after all!
by Adrie Santos
