Readers Ask: My girlfriend won’t cum when I give her oral sex, what am I doing wrong?

How to Be a Cunning Linguist…or Something…Well babycakes, you know how I said in my last article that blowjobs are like pizza, even if they’re bad, they’re still pretty good? Unfortunately the same thing does not apply to eating pussy.

So, there you are, in the home stretch of intercourse with your partner and you feel that impossible-to-ignore swell of stimulation from your loins as you pound away. You know you're about to pop your top in a few minutes (no matter how many times you count backwards from 1,476), but you want her to come before you. Unless you've read our tricks and tips below, you might just beat her to the climax (insert line here about rolling over or flicking on the tube).

Newsflash: many women do enjoy porn! The notion that women don't respond to sexual imagery is simply a myth.

The reality is that many women are uncomfortable with the idea of admitting to someone that they are turned on by a full-on vagina ramming session because of how they may be perceived, how they were raised, etc. But finding porn that you'll both enjoy is really not that difficult.

Going down on a woman doesn't require the complicated skill you may think. There are three simple points to keep in mind if you want to go down like a champ and give her the kind of oral that will have her singing your praises to her friends (yes, women do share that shit!)

First, you've got to let go of any hang-ups you may have about oral and the notion that it's dirty down there. If you're attracted to her enough to want to give it a go, how nasty can she be? Though, suggesting a shower or bath together before hand is a great idea that will further prime her for action anyway and its better than curling your lips in disgust when you get near it and risk making her uncomfortable and ruining what could be an amazing time.

Next; know how to tease. Build up is very important to a woman's arousal, so going in there all fast and sloppy just won't do. Make your way south slowly with caresses and kisses and linger near her pussy, taking the time to tease her inner thighs and help get her ready. Once her body is really reacting to your touch; hover over her pussy, tickling it with your breath and nuzzling into it and when she starts lifting her pelvis up to you, clearly wanting more; it's time to go in for the kill. This is where you really get to shine without doing all that much. Don't worry about fancy technique and the bells and whistles of fingers darting in and out of holes - that's something you can build up to or experiment with later, because while it's just not necessary in order to make her cum like never before.

Hold her lips apart and run your tongue lightly up and down her slit a few times; making sure to go high up enough that you graze her clit with each lick. Then, focus your attention on the clit and flick your tongue over it, very gradually picking up speed and increasing pressure. This is one of the few times where repetitive motion is preferred, meaning that once you've found a pace that seems to be working, (obvious by the way her thighs have clamped on to your head!) keep at it no matter what! There is a reason why she will yell "Don't stop!" It is this repetitive flicking/licking that will bring her to orgasm if you keep at it's no matter the strain on your neck and mouth, because your hard work is sure to be rewarded when she regains consciousness!

by Adrie Santos