Burning to expand your sexual horizons with group sex? These tips will have you both enjoying the extracurricular activity you crave in no time!
Just making the decision with your mate to move from fantasy to reality with group sex can be exciting enough to make you bust a nut right there, but before you get your little black book out, there are a couple things you should keep in mind.
To avoid any surprises, make sure that you discuss before you indulge exactly what it is each of you wants to try; another man/woman/couple/gang/tranny? Most men are more than happy to bring another woman in on things and with bisexual fantasies topping the list of what gets women hot; your gal is likely to be up for it too. Keep an open mind when hearing what your partner wants and though it can be hard you’ve gotta keep your jealousy at bay and remember that who ever you chose should be looked at as sex toys—warm, living ones! If you've made the decision together to experiment, you have to be confident enough in your relationship to know this is just an extension of your sex life and that neither of you is looking to replace the other. Right?
OK, so once you’ve decided on the gender(s) that you’d like to play with, its time to figure out who it will be and where you’ll find them. Opting to use a friend is usually the first instinct and can have it advantages, like the comfort associated with familiarity. However, there can be a downside since there is always the risk of messing up a really great friendship(s) should any of you feel awkward during or after the fact. If you opt for a stranger—or ten, the anonymity in itself could prove extremely arousing and liberating. Being able to experiment without worrying what will become of the acquaintance afterwards will leave you free to enjoy the experience. Another plus in going with a stranger is that when you find them, you’re both out there looking for the same thing so there is no need to try and explain yourself or coax anyone into anything.
There is no shortage of willing men and woman out there and finding them is easier than you think! Personal ads are usually burstingwith people looking for threesome, foursome or moresomes—especially in the alternative newspapers that are usually free. Then of course you have the internet and the hundreds of sites that cater to those seeking sex of any kind. Sites like Adult Friend Finder, Plenty-O-Fish and even Lava Life are like sex buffets with a wide assortment of hunky men, beautiful women and curious couples laid out; one after the other with pictures! Shopping for your new playmates can be hot and is the best done together. Take your time to peruse the ads, but be careful not to rely on the images alone and read the profiles to make certain that you’re all looking for the same thing to avoid having a leather clad Dom show up at your door when all you wanted was some heavy petting!
Once you’ve chosen your new fuck-friends, its important to lay down ground rules outlining what you’re willing to do and what you won’t even consider. For instance, a man may decide to satisfy his girl’s fantasy of having two men, but be squeamish about any contact with the man so make it clear that you aren’t even ok with any scrotum to scrotum brushes that may result as a part of double penetration. Maybe you’ve invited another couple to play but want to limit it to oral only—these things MUST be discussed beforehand to avoid trouble.
Safety is your most important consideration before going ahead with your naughty new venture and I’m not just talking about condoms! If you’re in a group situation, there is always the chance that things could get a little out of control when the testosterone gets flowin’, so agree on a “safe word” before hand so there is no mistaking a dangerous situation for simply rough sex.
Another great option when you’re an orgy newbie is checking out a swingers club or attending a sex party. Walking into a place where everyone in the room is there for the same thing can make things a lot easier for you. If you’re extremely nervous; a room filled with people groping or even fucking is certainly an ice breaker, not to mention a turn on. Whether a club or a private party; people in the lifestyle understand what the first time is like, so the participating will not be a requirement, but instead gently encouraged. Walk in, look around, talk to people and even ask questions. You can even start off by simply exploring your inner exhibitionist and engage in some sex play with each other. Anyone interested in joining in won’t do so unless invited, so take your time, have fun and see where it takes you.
No matter how many people you decide to experiment with; keep an open mind, play safe, savor the all the different tastes and get the most out of your experience.
by Adrie Santos Image by x-art
